Salesforce President, CFO Amy Weaver Encourages Graduate Students to Lead with Kindness

“For too long, kindness has often been seen as a weakness in the workplace,” Weaver said. “Think of the attributes often celebrated in supposedly “great” leaders: An iron hand. Ruthlessness. A killer instinct. One radio program even had a segment positively comparing executive leadership traits to those of psychopaths. And in some quarters—especially Silicon Valley—we were told we had to tolerate The Brilliant Jerk.”

She said being nice was even considered an insult to both men and women, referencing the saying, “Nice guys finish last.”

Weaver said she witnessed these attitudes throughout her career and at one point, during tough business negotiations, was advised that being nice wouldn’t work. She said she was even told to start swearing.

In another example, Weaver said the chief operating officer of a major company who had interviewed one of her former colleagues called her about the candidate. Weaver described the young woman as “bright, hard-working and excellent at her job,” while also being “soft-spoken and unfailingly polite.” The only question the COO had, she said, was if the candidate was too nice.

“I’m here to tell you that kindness is not a weakness in the workplace, it’s a strength,” Weaver said. “Real leadership is not the ability to dominate and control others. “It’s the ability to bring people together—across any differences—to get things done, to build, to create. And that takes many qualities—including kindness. Treating people with respect, civility and decency. Carrying yourself with humility and honesty. Leading with gratitude and empathy.”

Weaver said that includes eating right, exercising, getting more sleep than needed, taking breaks, sustaining relationships with friends and family, giving back and learning to walk away from the laptop and cell phone.

“Just remember how amazing you already are and that you’ve got this,” Weaver said.

Prior to Weaver’s remarks, Caroline Ferguson ’23G addressed her fellow graduates about being one of 6.8 million people diagnosed with a mental illness. She shared her struggles to succeed while her mind and body had trouble processing stress.

Ferguson, who was introduced by Provost Nathan Urban, said her “invisible illness” prevented her from always having the energy to do what she wanted or needed to do, which led her to struggle when she first began her research at Lehigh.

“My project required long periods of intense experiments during which my mindset seemed to shape the success of data collection,” Ferguson said. “I needed focus, patience and level-headedness that I had never associated with myself. I felt like an imposter and isolated myself so nobody would catch on.”

Things changed, she said, when she began to study how stress impacts individual cells.

Lehigh President Joseph J. Helble ’82 followed the conferring of degrees and doctoral hooding as the ceremony’s final speaker and shared reactions he received from students when he asked them about their graduate experience. He said he received a range of answers including having had the freedom to study whatever they were interested in, the thrill of asking—and trying to answer open-ended questions and taking steps to enhance their career.

They also expressed being part of a global community. “One of the best-kept secrets of American higher education is how truly international it’s become,” Helble said.

Forty years ago, around the time he graduated from Lehigh, just over 7% of master’s degrees in the United States were granted to international students, he said. By 2021, it was 15%. He said the percentages for doctoral degrees are similar, with 12% of doctoral degrees granted in 2021, and 60% of those granted in engineering, being received by non-resident international students.

Lehigh has followed the trend, Helble said.

Of this year’s graduates, 23% of the master’s degrees granted were to international citizens while 47% of the doctoral degrees were granted to international citizens. In addition to the United States, China and India, Helble said Lehigh’s graduate degree recipients hailed from 32 additional countries, including the United Kingdom, Greece, Nepal, Kenya, Australia, Jamaica and Colombia.

“I mention this because I am hoping you, our graduates, will reflect on the tremendous value that that has brought to your Lehigh education,” Helble said. “I mention this because, as you reflect on your years at Lehigh, you recognize that you chose to come here not to be surrounded by the same, but to be able to learn from the world’s best and brightest. To learn in spite of your differences, to learn across your differences, to learn from your differences.”

Helbe told the graduates in this “world of instant communication” and “social media amplification,” people are too easily labeled as “different” or “other.” And in this case, those words, he said, mean “lesser” and “wrong.”

If they ever find themselves in a group that is being looked upon as different, Helble said they should reflect on the lessons they learned as part of the global Lehigh community, on what they were able to learn from those “who might seem a bit different.”

The Allentown Band, under the direction of conductor Ronald H. Demkee, opened the ceremony with a musical prelude and the processional and concluded the festivities with the recessional. Mitchell J. Hendricks ’23G sang the national anthem and Lehigh’s Alma Mater. University Chaplain Lloyd Steffen, professor of religion studies, offered both the invocation and the benediction.